I never pictured myself to be a stay at home mom, but I’m very glad (most days) that I am able to be home with my daughter. For our family it made sense for me to stay home. We figured whatever money I would make at a job would go towards daycare and that just didn’t make sense. Luckily, my husband’s Acupuncture practice is doing well and he works very hard so I can stay home. I do realize how lucky I am to be home and witness all the great milestones and I know not everyone is able to do so.
I do get bored and lonely
Having always been a shy person I thought not having to go out and interact with people every day would be great. Turns out, hanging out with a toddler all day is not always fun and exciting. A person can only handle so much Mickey Mouse and Doc McStuffins. I honestly didn’t think I could get lonely but I don’t have other friends with kids near me to go hang out with. I’m hoping to connect with other moms out there as I grow this blog.
People assume I do nothing all day
Another thing I soon realized is that I didn’t have as much time to get things done as I originally thought. The days I actually have the energy to be productive are the days my little one needs extra attention and basically says, “Nope, you’re not getting anything done today.” Yes, there are days where the decision to get dressed is a struggle and I get absolutely nothing accomplished. In my experience days with a newborn are much more demanding. Not only are you a new parent trying to figure things out, but you’re going from one thing to the next trying to keep it all together. Now that my daughter is getting older she is becoming much more independent and her communications skills are improving.
Everyone says “sleep when your baby sleeps.” Nap times have been getting a bit more difficult. She likes to wait until six o’clock to try and take a nap and it’s just too late at that time. When she did sleep I always saw it as my chance to get something done. I could shower, cook, or workout in peace.
The range of emotions that children go through in a day is shocking. My daughter can go from laughing to a full on tantrum in no time. I’m not someone who can just move on when she decides to be done with the outburst. I want to know why she needed to cry for half an hour because I ate a piece of banana that she didn’t want. Living day to day in a place with extreme emotions and unpredictability can be really take its toll. I keep thinking there must be some secret out there that I’m unaware of on how to handle these situations better. The truth is no one has it completely figured it out. There are no perfect toddlers, just like no mother is perfect.
As soon as you give birth (and even before) you have a ton of important decisions to make. You will read books, articles, and blogs to help with your decisions. There will always be the person who thinks you’re making all the wrong decisions and won’t be afraid to let you know. It’s important to just ignore them (I’m still working on that part). In the end you need to make the choice that’s right for your child and family.
I’ve been a SAHM now for over two years and I can tell you there will be days of monotony, tears, and loneliness. But there are also the great, picture perfect days. I’m learning it’s all about doing your best every day and be proud of what you are able to accomplish.
Momming is hard, but you’ve got this!